Ok, there is additional code that can be added to make this and feel more effiecient, but this gets the job done.
In your customize datagrid control override the horizontal scrollbar events with a class like this:
Protected Overrides Sub GridHScrolled(ByVal sender As Object, ByVal se As System.Windows.Forms.ScrollEventArgs)
Select Case se.Type
Case ScrollEventType.SmallIncrement, ScrollEventType.LargeIncrement
Dim SumWidth = 0
For i As Integer = _ColumnNumber + 1 To MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles.Count - 1
If MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(i).Width > 0 Then
MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(i).Width = 0
Exit For
End If
SumWidth += MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(i).Width
Next
MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles.Count - 1).Width() += MyBase.TableStyles(0).DataGrid().Width - SumWidth
Case ScrollEventType.SmallDecrement, ScrollEventType.LargeDecrement
For i As Integer = MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles.Count - 1 To 1 Step -1
If MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(i).Width = 0 Then
MyBase.TableStyles(0).GridColumnStyles(i).Width = 100
Exit For
End If
Next
Case ScrollEventType.EndScroll, ScrollEventType.First, ScrollEventType.Last, ScrollEventType.ThumbPosition, ScrollEventType.ThumbTrack
MyBase.GridHScrolled(sender, se)
End Select
Else
MyBase.GridHScrolled(sender, se)
End If
End Sub